The study focuses on the subjectivity of co-leadership as it is experienced in certain counselling, guidance and leadership courses in higher education in Norway. The learning process is always facilitated by two leaders who work together. In this intensive study, six experienced co-leaders sorted the sample six times with the different conditions of instruction focusing on various perspectives of the co-leadership relation. Rogers' ideal and real selves and Laings' direct and meta-perspectives are among the conditions of instruction. The experimental design was constructed around three effects ? relation, role and activity. A 3-factor solution was chosen that revealed different views of the co-leader relation. Role effect played a minor part in the factors and activity was not operational. The finding that some leaders had difficulty seeing their co-leader as different from them was an interesting discovery that prompts further investigation.